Death of a loved-one is never something that we want to think about; but for many of us it is a closer reality than we want to admit. Today I welcome guest author Lucille Rosetti. Lucille is an expert in the field of loss and bereavement and kindly agreed to pen a guest piece. She has a book titled Life After Death: A Wellness Guide for the Bereaved coming out this spring.
The decision to move from your home after the loss of a spouse, parent, or child is one of the toughest you’ll ever make. There are so many emotions that go along with moving, but when coupled with leaving a part of your life behind, it can be very intimidating. But a change of scenery and a fresh start may be just what you need to heal.
Is it time to go? After losing a loved one, there are so many reminders each day that things are not the same, even if the backdrop is. If you find it difficult to imagine yourself in that environment without your loved one, you may do well to give yourself a new place to call home. People move for many reasons, including, according to Unpakt, to get a fresh start and combat financial issues, which you may have if your spouse has passed away. When your reasons to leave outweigh your reasons to stay, you’ll know it’s time.
Cleaning and saying goodbye. One of the hardest parts of the moving process is cleaning out the home before packing your boxes. Combined with the emotional struggles associated with going through our loved one’s belongings, this can be almost crippling. In order to move forward, you’ll need to let go of some personal belongings. Start with items that don’t have any direct emotional connection, such as old shoes and books that haven’t been read in years. You may wish to donate clothing or household items to a local shelter or community center so that these things can bring joy to someone else. Purge as much as you can but hold onto sentimental treasures. Pocket Sense warns to be careful when tossing paperwork, as the decedent must have taxes filed on his or her behalf.
Once you decide which personal keepsakes to hold onto and which to donate or sell, consider hiring a cleaning service to help you clear things out before you pack. HomeAdvisor reports that the average cost for a one-time interior house cleaning is between $115 and $241 and takes about four hours.
Buying and selling, don’t go it alone. One of the most important things you can do for yourself is to partner with a real estate agent that can help you manage the buying and selling process. U.S. News & World Report’s experts explain that there are several ways to effectively sell your home quickly. But since you also want to get the most out of your investment, you’ll also need the advice of a Realtor®, who can offer suggestions on which projects to complete and the best way to stage your house to make it as inviting as possible for potential buyers. On the buying side, an experienced agent can help you find a new neighborhood close to amenities that add value to your life. The agent can guide you toward financing options and will be able to point out issues you may not have considered, such as high homeowner’s association costs or proximity to higher-crime areas.
Another thing to consider when moving is hiring a professional moving service. This will help ease some of the pressure and ensure safe transport—or financial compensation in case of an accident—of your furniture, electronics, and other household goods.
While it’s overwhelming, know that things will settle down, and you’ll soon be able to see the horizon over the hills. Moving can offer you the chance to rebuild your life and write a new chapter for yourself. The biggest obstacle is overcoming your emotional attachments and letting go of the guilt of leaving your home. You deserve to be happy, and your deceased family member would encourage you to do what’s best for you.
This Psychology Today post by Kristen Meeholf offers additional advice on how to create a new life after loss.
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